Our team of professional Aging Life Care Managers® serve Tallahassee and its surrounding areas. We help families navigate healthcare, manage dementia or Alzheimer’s, mobility issues, disabilities or other challenges coupled with aging or disability. We are consultants that help coordinate options for care and do not provide hands-on care. We do help find hands-on care if needed.

It is likely that your parents are independent. They have lived longer than you and most people believe that they know more than their children, regardless of the ages of the children. It comes as no surprise that parents who are independent and have led their families are going to be resistant to the idea of bringing an Aging Life Care Manager®, also known as a geriatric care manager, into the mix to support them as they age. This resistance can pose significant challenges for families trying to ensure the well-being and safety of their aging loved ones. However, as care managers, we specialize in navigating these complex situations, working collaboratively with families to address the concerns of resistant aging parents while promoting their independence and quality of life.

One of the key roles of care managers is to build trust and rapport with the aging parent. We approach the relationship with empathy, understanding, and respect, acknowledging the parent’s desire for independence while gently introducing the idea of receiving assistance. By focusing on the parent’s goals, preferences, and values, care managers help establish a sense of partnership and collaboration, rather than imposition or interference.

We have a toolkit of strategies to help resistant aging parents see the benefits of accepting support. From providing education about aging-related changes, health risks, and available resources, empowering parents to make informed decisions about their own care as much as possible. The recommendations we provide are tailored to the parent’s needs and preferences, highlighting how receiving assistance can enhance their independence and quality of life.

Additionally, we involve the aging person in the decision-making process, ensuring that their voice is heard, and their autonomy respected. By encouraging open communication and active participation, it fosters a sense of empowerment and ownership over the caregiving journey, helping alleviate resistance and reluctance.

Furthermore, when we collaborate closely with families to develop creative and flexible care plans that accommodate the parent’s preferences and wishes, it makes them open up to alternative options, such as home modifications, assistive devices, and community-based services, to provide the necessary support while preserving the parent’s sense of autonomy and dignity. For example, a family may be thinking that their parent has to go to a nursing home or assisted living, but with our help they are able to see that helping their parent stay in their own home is not only possible but is preferable and this makes the parent very happy.

Ultimately, when we serve as advocates for both the aging parent and their family, navigating the delicate balance between promoting independence and ensuring safety and well-being, our goal is to support all the needs of the client and the family, together. Through compassionate communication, tailored solutions, and collaborative decision-making, we help families overcome any barriers of resistance and create a supportive and empowering caregiving environment for aging parents that is coupled with our professional expertise.

If you’re struggling with a resistant parent who is hesitant to accept help, please reach out to us and we can discuss the best approach to meet with you and your loved one to see how we can help with professional guidance and advocacy. With our expertise and guidance, you can navigate challenging care situations with knowledge, compassion, respect, and understanding.